It is said that one could always choose to be happy. But what if it really is hard to be happy? Happiness is an emotion. We feel our emotions. We do not choose them, there are not even wrong emotions. That is ours, and ours alone. When we say that we feel something but that feeling is not really within us, then that would be hypocrisy, according to Gary Chapman. Therefore, it would be difficult to choose to be happy, to say, claim, or believe that we are when we’re not. However, we could instead think of happy thoughts that could in turn elicit happiness, thus, it would be genuine. We would not be hypocrites.
On the other hand, while I was sharing this thought to another, she said, you could choose happiness because happiness is not an emotion, it is a state of being. And I told her, “then, what are other states of being?” There was a long pause. “Sadness, the opposite of happiness.”
The dictionary defines emotion as a state of consciousness. Isn’t that the same with “state of being?” For me, it is.
Therefore, I made the decision to jot down at least one happy life event per day. This way, I could always come back to several happy thoughts that could elicit genuine happiness, or even joy, in my times of melancholia.